Quoting from The New York Times, 10.19.2017:
Lupita Nyong’o is an actor, director and producer. On October 19, 2017 in an op-ed for the New York Times, the Oscar-winning actress detailed a pattern of predatory behavior Harvey Weinstein, a film producer, former film executive, and actor, had directed at her, starting when she was still a student at the Yale School of Drama. She writes,
“Harvey led me into a bedroom — his bedroom — and announced that he wanted to give me a massage.
I thought he was joking at first. He was not. For the first time since I met him, I felt unsafe. I panicked a little and thought quickly to offer to give him one instead: It would allow me to be in control physically, to know exactly where his hands were at all times.
Part of our drama school curriculum at Yale included body work, using massage techniques on one another to understand the connection between body, mind and emotion, and so I felt I could rationalize giving him one and keep a semblance of professionalism in spite of the bizarre circumstance. He agreed to this and lay on the bed. I began to massage his back to buy myself time to figure out how to extricate myself from this undesirable situation. Before long he said he wanted to take off his pants. I told him not to do that and informed him that it would make me extremely uncomfortable. He got up anyway to do so and I headed for the door, saying that I was not at all comfortable with that. “If we’re not going to watch the film, I really should head back to school,” I said.
I opened the door and stood by the frame. He put his shirt on and again mentioned how stubborn I was. I agreed with an easy laugh, trying to get myself out of the situation safely. I was after all on his premises, and the members of his household, the potential witnesses, were all (strategically, it seems to me now) in a soundproof room.”
As a person, are you a thermostat or a thermometer?
A thermostat sets the temperature, whereas a thermometer merely reflects its environment. Leader heroes are like thermostats setting an appropriate and successful climate. These thermostats/leader heroes are responsible for setting the vision for an organization. The climate they set needs to be inclusive of trust and respect of others; they know that without either, communication will break down and the climate will be uncomfortable for everyone. Whether in calm times or times of high stress, leader heroes seek better ways to show others that their best days are yet to come.
Like is possible with a thermostat, when a leader hero perceives the climate is no longer comfortable for everyone, he or she will take action and adjust the climate as needed to ensure an appropriate comfort level is provided for all. Knowing when to change the climate setting is critical. Leader heroes can sense when such changes are needed and take the necessary actions to make them happen.
Other leaders, like thermometers, reflect and understand the climate and are entrusted to achieve and maintain the highest levels of efficiency and effectiveness to accomplish the vision of the organization as set by the thermostat/leader hero. These thermometers/leaders develop the mission steps necessary to maintain the climate using their followers and processes. Although these leaders are not responsible for changing the climate, they can and often do affect whether or not the current climate is the correct one needed for the good of the organization. This is frequently the level where communication problems happen, thus alerting the leader hero if the climate is in need of change.
So, are you a thermostat or a thermometer person?
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"I am still determined to be cheerful and happy,
in whatever situation I may be;for I have also
learned from experience that the greater part
of our happiness or misery depends upon our
dispositions, and not upon our circumstances."
Martha Washington (1732- 1802)
FIRST LADY. WIFE OF GEORGE WASHINGTON ,
FIRST PRESI DENT OF THE UNITED STATES
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